justginger
Ideal_Rock
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Oh my goodness, am I angry. My MIL told me last night about the debacle my poor SIL is going through.
SIL has three children with her ex-husband. He left her. He didn't actually leave until the third child was born, but he had been absent in many ways prior to that point. In fact, he tried walking out of the delivery suite during the birth of the third, but got hauled back in by a nurse. Anyway, he moved out immediately post-birth, and straight into a house with his girlfriend, who apparently had been on the side for some time.
The split happened a few years ago. SIL has moved on. She has reunited with a high school boyfriend and they are very happy - he has slipped straight into the role of stepfather without complaint, and they now have a child together as well (an oopsie baby, but well loved just the same).
From the birth of her very first child, SIL has been a SAHM. She left her career to raise the children, as she and her ex-husband had built a successful company that he and another partner ran. When their marriage dissolved, SIL gave up her share of the company in exchange for keeping primary custody of the children. She was happy to forfeit what turned out to be a substantial amount of money in exchange for a) almost full custody of the three children, and b) a voluntarily increased amount of weekly child support. So ex-husband didn't have to sell the business to pay her out, she got the kids for a majority of the time, and they evened the finances a bit by him voluntarily signing up for slightly increased weekly payments.
So...ex-BIL sold the business to his other partner recently. Took the money, of which SIL got nothing (as agreed), and bought another business in his girlfriend's name. Now he is technically UNEMPLOYED, which means that amongst the very fine print of their agreed contract, he no longer has to pay her any child support at all. NONE. So she lost out on her 1/3rd of a multi-million dollar company with the knowledge that she would be receiving adequate and regular support payments, only for him to sell the business, claim unemployment, and stop paying her anything!
The man is RICH. He lives in a million dollar house, has 2 $60,000+ cars, a new profitable business under his partner's name, the works. And now he's managed to get out of paying for the care of his own bloody children! It makes me absolutely livid. None of this was done by chance; it was all carefully orchestrated.
Money was tight for my SIL before this - four children in one household with only one person working is tough. Especially when, up until only about 9 months ago, NEITHER were able to work (her new partner had immigration work restrictions). We've helped them out a bit this year, but it is clear that DH and I will need to step up a bit more now that Richie Rich Deadbeat Dad has executed his grand plan.
Far out - how do some people sleep at night?!
Sorry for the whinge. I am sure you all know of people like this man, who seem to think that they can live life as a child forever, and are completely oblivious to the people around them.
SIL has three children with her ex-husband. He left her. He didn't actually leave until the third child was born, but he had been absent in many ways prior to that point. In fact, he tried walking out of the delivery suite during the birth of the third, but got hauled back in by a nurse. Anyway, he moved out immediately post-birth, and straight into a house with his girlfriend, who apparently had been on the side for some time.
The split happened a few years ago. SIL has moved on. She has reunited with a high school boyfriend and they are very happy - he has slipped straight into the role of stepfather without complaint, and they now have a child together as well (an oopsie baby, but well loved just the same).
From the birth of her very first child, SIL has been a SAHM. She left her career to raise the children, as she and her ex-husband had built a successful company that he and another partner ran. When their marriage dissolved, SIL gave up her share of the company in exchange for keeping primary custody of the children. She was happy to forfeit what turned out to be a substantial amount of money in exchange for a) almost full custody of the three children, and b) a voluntarily increased amount of weekly child support. So ex-husband didn't have to sell the business to pay her out, she got the kids for a majority of the time, and they evened the finances a bit by him voluntarily signing up for slightly increased weekly payments.
So...ex-BIL sold the business to his other partner recently. Took the money, of which SIL got nothing (as agreed), and bought another business in his girlfriend's name. Now he is technically UNEMPLOYED, which means that amongst the very fine print of their agreed contract, he no longer has to pay her any child support at all. NONE. So she lost out on her 1/3rd of a multi-million dollar company with the knowledge that she would be receiving adequate and regular support payments, only for him to sell the business, claim unemployment, and stop paying her anything!
The man is RICH. He lives in a million dollar house, has 2 $60,000+ cars, a new profitable business under his partner's name, the works. And now he's managed to get out of paying for the care of his own bloody children! It makes me absolutely livid. None of this was done by chance; it was all carefully orchestrated.
Money was tight for my SIL before this - four children in one household with only one person working is tough. Especially when, up until only about 9 months ago, NEITHER were able to work (her new partner had immigration work restrictions). We've helped them out a bit this year, but it is clear that DH and I will need to step up a bit more now that Richie Rich Deadbeat Dad has executed his grand plan.
Far out - how do some people sleep at night?!
Sorry for the whinge. I am sure you all know of people like this man, who seem to think that they can live life as a child forever, and are completely oblivious to the people around them.