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Brilliant_Rock
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My best girl friend and I share the same problem with our significant others (she''s married, I''m getting married next month.) They constantly need physical affection! This morning, my fiance and I had a pretty big arguement over this. For about the last 2 years (we''ve been together 4,) particularly in the mornings when I''m attempting to get ready, or the evenings when I''m unwinding/cooking dinner, my fiance wants to be hugging me, grabbing me, FRENCH kissing me! Don''t get me wrong, I am totally attracted to him and love kissing, cuddling, intimacy, etc....but its always when I''m BUSY or stressed or in the middle of something.
Anyway, about 6 months ago, I said I needed to sit him down, so I did, and told him how frustrating this is. When I''m doing my mascara, and he is trying to passionately kiss my neck, COME ON! I said when I''m getting ready in the morning and unwinding at night, please - just a peck and quick hug, then let''s each do our thing, then we can cuddle while watching tv, etc. He did well for a few months but is back at it again. This morning, while doing my makeup, he walked up to me to try to bear-hug me and I snapped and shoved him off of me and said "you know I don''t like being mauled when doing my makeup." He was REALLY offended, said I''m not patient with him, and my reply was - how can I be patient with you when you do the same thing EVERY morning that you know I don''t like???
I probably sound like such a terrible fiance - and I know there are women who wish their spouses had more affection - but I truly feel like there is a time and situation where its expected and ok, and other times when its just downright annoying.
One time, I tried to "play his game" and crawl all over him when he was on his computer, but he mis-read that and totally loved it and wanted to head to the bedroom.
What do you think?
Anyway, about 6 months ago, I said I needed to sit him down, so I did, and told him how frustrating this is. When I''m doing my mascara, and he is trying to passionately kiss my neck, COME ON! I said when I''m getting ready in the morning and unwinding at night, please - just a peck and quick hug, then let''s each do our thing, then we can cuddle while watching tv, etc. He did well for a few months but is back at it again. This morning, while doing my makeup, he walked up to me to try to bear-hug me and I snapped and shoved him off of me and said "you know I don''t like being mauled when doing my makeup." He was REALLY offended, said I''m not patient with him, and my reply was - how can I be patient with you when you do the same thing EVERY morning that you know I don''t like???
I probably sound like such a terrible fiance - and I know there are women who wish their spouses had more affection - but I truly feel like there is a time and situation where its expected and ok, and other times when its just downright annoying.
One time, I tried to "play his game" and crawl all over him when he was on his computer, but he mis-read that and totally loved it and wanted to head to the bedroom.
What do you think?