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Shiny_Rock
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- Apr 28, 2008
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I apologise if this doesn''t make much sense...
I am a driven, intelligent, logical, feminist and fiercely independent woman. I decided when I was 13 that I wanted to be a lawyer and since then I have been slowly achieving my goals. When I was a teenager I didn''t even think I wanted to be married. I was much more concerned with my career, experiencing life and not being dependent on another person.
So when I woke up one day and decided that I really wanted to get engaged, like right now, it was a huge shock to me. Me, waiting on a MAN?? Never. I could not figure out for a long time why I wanted this so much, or why it was consuming my thoughts EVERY DAY.
Eventually I came to terms with it when I clarified in my mind why it was that I wanted to get married. But I still get frustrated with SO keeping me waiting because there isn''t anything I can do about it. There has never been anything else in my adult life that I have really wanted and not been able to find out how to achieve it, when I can achieve it by and then take steps to actually achieve it.
Has anyone else found it difficult to come to terms with their status as a LIW (for whatever reason)? How have you dealt with it?
I am a driven, intelligent, logical, feminist and fiercely independent woman. I decided when I was 13 that I wanted to be a lawyer and since then I have been slowly achieving my goals. When I was a teenager I didn''t even think I wanted to be married. I was much more concerned with my career, experiencing life and not being dependent on another person.
So when I woke up one day and decided that I really wanted to get engaged, like right now, it was a huge shock to me. Me, waiting on a MAN?? Never. I could not figure out for a long time why I wanted this so much, or why it was consuming my thoughts EVERY DAY.
Eventually I came to terms with it when I clarified in my mind why it was that I wanted to get married. But I still get frustrated with SO keeping me waiting because there isn''t anything I can do about it. There has never been anything else in my adult life that I have really wanted and not been able to find out how to achieve it, when I can achieve it by and then take steps to actually achieve it.
Has anyone else found it difficult to come to terms with their status as a LIW (for whatever reason)? How have you dealt with it?