Independent Gal
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Haha this seriously made me laugh.Date: 8/20/2007 2:27:54 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Hahaha! I just read her e-mail a little more carefully and noticed she said something along the lines of ''How dare you tell me not to talk about the wedding with our relatives. I know you talked to the A''s about it. Everything comes back to me you know!'' (That referred back to the cause of her yelling at me initially last week.)
Uhm, I am the bride. I am therefore entitled to invite people to my wedding. You are the crazy aunt. You are therefore not entitled to do so. I suppose she missed that page of the ''how to be sane'' handbook.
OK, that was mean.
She really brings out the worst in me. I''m ashamed.
And if you don''t know who your crazy relative is.......it''s probably YOU!Date: 8/20/2007 3:42:41 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Deco, funny you should say that, because that''s EXACTLY what my dad said! He said ''Indy darlin'', EVERYBODY has a crazy relative, and this is ours.''
Date: 8/20/2007 2:27:54 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Hahaha! I just read her e-mail a little more carefully and noticed she said something along the lines of ''How dare you tell me not to talk about the wedding with our relatives. I know you talked to the A''s about it. Everything comes back to me you know!'' (That referred back to the cause of her yelling at me initially last week.)
Uhm, I am the bride. I am therefore entitled to invite people to my wedding. You are the crazy aunt. You are therefore not entitled to do so. I suppose she missed that page of the ''how to be sane'' handbook.
OK, that was mean.
She really brings out the worst in me. I''m ashamed.
Gosh IG, she/that sounds just like my mother with my sister. Mom has let my sister get away with way too much, and it''s only because of me constantly reminding her that she really wasn''t doing her any favors that she eased up a bit. But she still makes excuses for her, and favors her. And I think a small part of her is actually affraid of my sister, although she''d never admit it. I wonder if there isn''t a small bit of that going on with Grammy too...Oh well, what do you do, but deal with it the best you can.Date: 8/20/2007 3:31:53 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Yes, Kaleigh! I know Grammy definitely does see she''s crazy. But she seems to see her as a sort of wounded bird, as disabled, so she has the urge to protect her, even to protect her from her own mistakes and mis-steps. Gram thinks she didn''t get enough oxygen when she was born and that''s the reason she''s like this, which sounds funny to me, but that''s what she believes. She wishes the rest of us could all just sort of chuckle and say ''Oh, that silly Aunt F!'' and see it not as destructive, mean, rude behaviour, but as eccentric behaviour. That can be pretty hard when she''s totally wreaking havoc in your life! Or ruining your wedding! Or spreading malicious gossip to your boss! Or staff! Or stealing! Or humiliating you in public!
At what point do you go from ''Poor F. She really is a bit crazy isn''t she?'' to ''Lady, you really can''t treat me this way!'' even if you know she won''t be able to really hear you?
Date: 8/20/2007 7:19:31 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Thank you all for your support! I just called my grandmother with a sense of trepidation, wondering if she was going to say ''How could you upset F like that?'' but she didn''t say anything but ''Well HELLO dear! How was your day? What are you up to?'' etc. We talked for about 20 mins and she didn''t bring up the F situation at all. So, that means I''m home free with the part that was really worrying me.
I am going to ignore F to the best of my ability and avoid her when I can. I know that those of you who''ve said ''you can''t win!'' are OH SO RIGHT! And it''s what my dad says too. I keep trying to be kind to her, and it keeps exploding.
If my Grammy seems OK with the situation (me avoiding her), then that''s all I care about! Hopefully F will be serious about the ''I''m never speaking to you again'', but I doubt that! Even if she speaks, doesn''t mean I have to speak back.
Now let''s just hope she doesn''t take her revenge by trying to wreck my wedding.
Date: 8/20/2007 9:51:10 PM
Author: Independent Gal
''What''s that?!!?'' you say, ''Hold your horses!! Did you say she broke into her parents house and stole something so she could replace it?!!? BUt that''s CRAZY!'' Hey, I told you she was crazy.