LabRatPhD
Shiny_Rock
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I''ve been following this thread and I fee like a a lot of interesting responses have come up. I am less than 6 months out and I have been asking myself if all of this is worth it. Like some, if the matter had been up to solely my FI and I, we would have eloped or planned a very very small non-religious ceremony and party. My parents wanted something totally different - a big (to me) reception and a Hindu marriage ceremony. At first I was upset with my parents for requesting this of us, but they offered to pay for 80% (and FI''s parents 20%) and I guess I became apathetic. Now I am happy. It has brought me closer to my parents than I ever was. I also reconnected with family in India, many of whom I hadn''t seen in over 15 years. They are also excited to be attending my wedding and I couldn''t be happier. I still cringe at how much the venue costs and how much we spent on my dress, but seeing my family''s excitement over it all makes me feel like it IS worth it. Maybe not to me financially, but emotionally it is. To my parents, I know it will be worth it, financially and emotionally.
Maybe it is not the most important day in some people''s lives but I will chalk it up to being one of the most important in mine - just like FI''s graduation from law school, and my future graduation with my PhD, and the birth of our future children. I am happy that it has brought us all together, and to me, that makes all of this worth it.
Maybe it is not the most important day in some people''s lives but I will chalk it up to being one of the most important in mine - just like FI''s graduation from law school, and my future graduation with my PhD, and the birth of our future children. I am happy that it has brought us all together, and to me, that makes all of this worth it.