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by iluvcarats » January 26th, 2010, 4:41 pm
Smurfy - I love ya, but honestly, if that is the worst thing that happens to you, consider yourself lucky.
Turn on CNN.... Sorry that happened but  This is not meant to be mean. Just a gentle reminder to count your blessings. We all forget to do that sometimes. Me included. 
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Oh no, I would be devastated! I have thought about getting my bouquet recreated and then having it dried properly (apparently you can have them freeze dried or something) and then having a box made taht would hold the cake topper, knife, our cord for our handfasting ceremony and my bouquet. Maybe you could have that done to yours.
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Smurfy ...
Respectfully, why not take a look back at your recent threads & think about how *often* you post asking for support or sympathy or dust or prayers. There''s a limit to what people can give. Are you asking for more than your share?
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I have pictures of flowers coming out my ears :) I''m just WAY overly sentimental...when we moved to colorado DH practically had to beg me to throw away all this crap I didn''t even need lol. I''m sure eventually I''ll get over it, it just really stung at the time. |
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No I''ll them cremated :) lol JK JK I had a friend offer to take the crumblies and put them into a bookmark or make a photo frame or something out of them so I may do that but they have mostly turned to dust  I guess the cats really didn''t want those flowers around!
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That sounds like a great idea! You can put a picture of your bouquet in the frame. |
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Amen. I opened this thinking OMG, what happened, and was like are you kidding me?? Smurf, get a grip. Seriously. You post every little thing that happens. May be huge to you, but when I read your posts, I scratch my head?? My example of a sad day??? My friend on PS had to put her dog to sleep due to massive cancer.  I am not telling you how to feel, you feel how you do. I get that and am sorry this happened to you...  |
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I''m not saying it''s the worst possible thing that could happen; but it did happen and it made me sad. If you guys think I am being ridiculous, take a look at the pet peeve thread. Really does everyone need to be getting annoyed about these things when there are bigger things to be thinking about? Absolutely not. But we do. It''s part of the human condition. Just because there are major disasters and other terrible things happening does not mean my life IS perfect. It''s not. It''s far from it. I''m certainly allowed to feel sad about losing something sentimental. I''m over it now but at the time I wasn''t thinking "Oh man this sucks but it could be worse". I was thinking "This SUCKS! I was going to show all these things to my daughters if I have any or look at these things when I am older to reminisce".
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We understand its something to be bummed out about, smurfy. No one is arguing that. I think the concern is coming in about starting a thread about it, and it happens often. The title seemed a bit dramatic for what the thread was actually about. I''ve seen happier thread titles from people who just lost a person or pet. IMO, thread starting should be more than just about receiving constant support, people run out of things to say to you when you post your daily problems. Threads should be interesting and/or informative for the most part. |
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People have reputations. I think some of us are trying to *kindly* tell you that you may be developing a reputation as a serial whiner. And instead of taking that in & seeing it for what it is -- you're being defensive & dramatic. "What about everyone else's petty concerns!?!!!" "What about my future unborn babies & their lack of future dead flower seeing!???!!" Its different because its an overwhelming, grating TREND in your particular case. I asked you to look back at your recent posts to see if you could SPOT that trend & understand how folks might feel that way. But I guess its more fun to get
 and footstomp and point fingers than to just quietly reflect on the validity and potential HELPFULNESS of the input. 
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Well, if it makes you feel any better I had zero time to buy my DD her first Christmas ornament so I ordered one last week and when she''s old enough, I''ll tell her that this was her first Christmas ornament. She doesn''t have to know that I bought it on January 21 
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Of course you''re entitled to your feelings, you just don''t have to post about it every time something happens/bothers you. Talk to a IRL friend or your husband about it or get a therapist. |
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I waited until January to buy our first wedding ornament because I wanted to get it on sale. Lennox is expensive man! |
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Smurfy,
something bothered you, and you posted about it. Anyone who is annoyed by that, or doesn''t want to hear about it can find other things to do. It''s less your problem than theirs, even if you complain on a serial basis. (sorry, don''t follow your threads like that, so I have no idea) That said, sorry about your flowers, that sucks. I''ve had pets ruin things that were much less significant, and it certainly is a frustrating and helpless feeling. |
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You''re right Trill, however like Deco said, she''s getting a reputation for that. If I were doing something consistently that was off-putting to the people around me, I''d want to know. I''d hate for everyone to stop responding to her posts, and her not know why. At least this way she understands the issue. I tried to present it as kindly as possible. |
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Just because some of you can''t see the value in a few of the postings here does not mean there ISN''T value there. Perhaps far GREATER value than "sorry Smurfy! that''s a real bummer
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Fair enough. Smurfy, that''s your cue to post and cry about your dubious internet reputation on PS!  I keed. |
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Now hold on here.
I''m not stomping my feet and freaking out here, just trying to explain why I posted in the first place and why I felt some people were implying that I shouldn''t be upset (or at least that is the way I took it). If you really feel I complain too much I''ll stop. But personally I believe I post just as many positive posts if not more than negative posts. I''ll try to watch myself from now on. |
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Its not a negative post or positive post thing, Smurfy. Its the fact that many times a week you are starting threads asking for support/sympathy/dust whatever. I understand that you have a lot going on in your life right now but my own personal willingness to give you support/sympathy/dust wanes with each thread started. I know there aren''t any "rules" about asking for such things out of your fellow PS community members, but the constant requests do start to take the shine off of the whole "asking for dust" thing in general. If what happened to you had happened to me I would be upset too! But maybe the difference is that I would go post about it here in the "Just wanna say... random comments thread" than in a whole new thread. I love that thread for reading the random thoughts going on around PS. I''m sorry your cats ruined a keepsake for you. I am hugely sentimental and if I had gone to the trouble of saving my wedding bouquet I would be upset for them to be destroyed. At least you have other keepsakes from the wedding and lots of pictures of your treasured bouquet. No to mention, you have the biggest keepsake of all, your husband. 
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