I''ve posted a few time but I have been longtime lurker. I have become an offical lady in waiting since my future sister in law recently told me my bf has been looking and getting prices on rings. I''ve given him an idea of what I want (Katherine Hiegl - pear halo). I want it to be a surprise so I''m trying my hardest not to get involved. I''m hoping he''ll propose sometime soon but we do have a slight issue. My sister got engaged in April and I feel that if we get engaged, I''ll be "stealing her thunder". Is it selfish of me to think about my own engagement and not respect her special time. Should I wait?? My bf doesn''t care and said he will do it whenever he pleases. But I feel like I should tell him to hold out for a while until my sister gets married in 2010!!! We plan on getting married in 2011 but we have to book the hall two years in advance...that means in early 2009,we have to decide on a date. So confused...need advice...