mimzy
Brilliant_Rock
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- Jul 17, 2007
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i''m very frustrated.
like most of you, i was somewhat involved in the picking out of my ering. but now that that part is behind us, my BF seems almost resentful that it can''t be a surprise engagement, that i''ll see it coming. So now he is saying that i shouldn''t have any expectations other than within like 8-12 months so that he can make it a surprise. I understand that he''s had this ideal scenario in his head where i am completely taken aback and shocked, but we have talked about it so much and for so long and i know that he already has the ring (or will in the next few days) that i can''t help but at least be hopeful. I feel bad that he can''t have that super surprise element, but not quite bad enough to be completely cool with him waiting for so long! How do i make him understand that just because i know it is going to happen that it doesn''t make it any less special or wonderful (and that it CAN still be a surprise as to exactly when), and that waiting that long is not going to make it a better experience?
like most of you, i was somewhat involved in the picking out of my ering. but now that that part is behind us, my BF seems almost resentful that it can''t be a surprise engagement, that i''ll see it coming. So now he is saying that i shouldn''t have any expectations other than within like 8-12 months so that he can make it a surprise. I understand that he''s had this ideal scenario in his head where i am completely taken aback and shocked, but we have talked about it so much and for so long and i know that he already has the ring (or will in the next few days) that i can''t help but at least be hopeful. I feel bad that he can''t have that super surprise element, but not quite bad enough to be completely cool with him waiting for so long! How do i make him understand that just because i know it is going to happen that it doesn''t make it any less special or wonderful (and that it CAN still be a surprise as to exactly when), and that waiting that long is not going to make it a better experience?