He forgot my bday ¬
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by Blackpaw » April 11th, 2009, 5:11 am
TELL HIM - he CANNOT think its OK to forget your birthday
 this doesnt mean you have to never let him forget it (though i probably wouldnt  ), but you should at least get some recompense for him being a jackass!Happy Birthday by the way (see, that wasnt so hard!)   Hope everyone else spoiled you rotten! |
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I agree with what everyone else has said so far! Forgetting your birthday is NOT something that you should forget about. He needs to know and should make it up to you! Let him know that it frustrated/hurt you and that you were dissapointed when he forgot your birthday. Do not let him off the hook on this!
Happy Birthday by the way :) |
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I would just text him and say "you know my bday was yesterday, right?"...
I don''t think I would make to big of a deal out of it... You said he is in architect and was working on a major project on the day so I can see how that would weigh heavy on his mind. Several of my friends in uni are architects and I can see how it consumes a lot of your time/ mind. Just let him know and see how it goes from there. He will probably feel bad and WANT to make it up to you vs you getting mad and suggesting him make it up to you... My BF is HORRIBLE when it comes to birthdays so maybe I just have a completely different outlook on it? |
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I think you should tell him he forgot, but try not to be too bitter about it =( I mean, it sucks that he forgot your birthday, but I have forgottten my really close friends'' birthdays before myself, because sometimes you just get so busy that even though you really care about them, you forget! It''s no excuse, but we''re all human =(.
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I can see guys forgetting, but 2 days before and him saying he won''t forget, then not remembering a day or two later seems fishy.
A-he is SUPER busy, but still shouldn''t be to busy to send a text message B-he has something planned If it''s A, I''m sorry... guys can be loopy when it comes to dates tho |
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It is not okay to forget a loved one's birthday.
And as soon as someone lets work interfere with their real, *ahem* I mean, personal life, then there's a priority problem, in my opinion. The first birthday I celebrated with my DH (then boyfriend) was a little rocky. He didn't call me to wish me a Happy Birthday during the day, and didn't say anything when I called him from work that afternoon. I let him know how it made me feel, and once we communicated about it, everything was fine. And he's made me feel loved and special for all four birthdays I've celebrated with him since. Talk to him. He's not a mind reader, and he won't know what to do if you don't let him know how this made you feel. And, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! |
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Oh girl. I am sorry this happened. He needs to know. Be the SO of an architect is rough, as they seem to always be at the mercy of their clients. My FI is an architect, and he owns an architecture firm, so I understand that sometimes (okay, a LOT of times) they can get wrapped up in their projects/clients/deadlines and neglect all things personal. FI has never totally missed my birthday, but that is only because his mother is great with dates and makes a big deal about my birthday. There have been a few years where he didn''t get me a gift, which isn''t really a huge deal, but something small would have been nice....card, flowers, something. However, architect or not, it is unacceptable. I think that when you tell him, he will be so sorry he was so absent-minded and this will never happen again. Give him the chance to do something great to make it up to you. Let us know what happens. Annndddd...... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR ANDIE! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! AND MANY MOOOOOOOORE!
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Thanks everyone, you''re all so sweet =) *group hug, yayyyyyy*
Sooooooooo, I need to tell you what JUST HAPPENED! Turns out he called again... but my 4 years old cousin picked phone up [ family''s here for my bday and Easter ]. So, she picked up phone and said " Uncle Jeff, why didn''t u come here yesterday to eat cake with Andrea? And why you didn''t get her a present? I got her a dress, when are u going to give her your present?" At this point, my mother and I were laughing out loud and she handed me the phone " here Andrea, talk to uncle Jeff because I wanna watch Backyardigans"  Needless to say , we have a winner for flower girl LOL Of course I was giggling and he just said in a very sad tone " I think I forgot something important, honey" to what I replied " oh you bet you did". So, you know what happened next . Millions of " I''m so sorry" , " I''ll make it up to you, just wait and see " and all that jazz. Let''s wait and see what he''ll plan
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Aw sounds like great news! I''m sure he''ll plan something special :) |
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ok I think that was the perfect way for him to find out, your cousin is adorable. And I''m sure he will do a great job of making it up to you! |
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Thank goodness for cute 4 year old cousins!  I hope the BF comes through, and does something spectacular for your special day!Happy Birthday!
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It''s interesting because I''m a nurse and generally he complains about my shifts and how sometimes I need to work 24 hours.- no, I am not Jack Bauer-
He''s having a terrible time with this project. The other day he went to bed at 2 AM and couldn''t sleep so I woke up, we talked about how he''s feeling about his job and this particular project. I just tell him to slow down and think more about his health because if something happens I won''t be able to help ''cause I am a peds nurse and never liked to work with adults =)
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PRICELESS! |
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Yes yes yes....this all sounds very familiar  Never in a million years would I have guessed that being an architect is so stressful! My FMIL (FFIL is an architect too) tells me on a regular basis that the wife of an architect needs a lot of friends or she will be a lonely woman. Not sure if I am willing to accept that or not -- I have been known to stomp my feet and put on my pout face when I want some "quality time." I am happy that he knows he missed your birthday -- I am sure he be will doing something awesome to make it up to you! Tell him diamonds are a good start
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Ugh! I'm so angry for you!
 All I can say is maybe after he realizes what he did, he'll do something amazingly sweet...like giving you something sparkly as a peace offering. In any case, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! and (((((HUGS))))) Edited: I just read your last post...gotta love kids and their bluntness! Let us know how he made it up to you! |
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You should tell him he forgot your birthday - by all means make a joke out of it, and take the pi** out of him - tear strips off him with a smile on your face if you like - but don't get all heavy and nasty - he'll feel bad enough about it as it is!
It's passive-aggressive NOT to say something about it!! Oh, haha I see your niece solved the problem, very good!
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I just love little kids and their honesty. She sure solved that problem quickly this time. LOL
In the future I would just tell him if he asks instead of the typical female "I''m fine, everything is fine" response. He forgot your birthday and you felt bad about it. That is something he deserved to know. Happy belated birthday! 
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