Becky P
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- Sep 7, 2006
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Hey ladies -
Just a mini-update for you here. It''s been a long time since I posted about all the drama that happened. So, for those of you who weren''t around then, a quick backstory... bf and I met and dated for a year in college, broke up for 4 years and got back together in Oct 2002. Dated long distance until Dec. 2005 when I moved to Pittsburgh. In Oct last year, he was offered a transfer to NC with his job. I didn''t want to go without a firm committment (engagement or timeline for engagement). After MANY (personal and private) discussions, I ended up moving with him in Feb (with a ring or a timeline on when I would have one).
Things in NC are going GREAT!! In Pittsburgh, most of our friends were single, which resulted in many nights out at the bars bagging on engaged/married people (as single guys tend to do). Since moving here to Raleigh, I''ve made sure that we meet as many couples as possible, and we''ve met some great people, gone out to dinners, etc. Before, he wasn''t really comfortable going out with couples (as though their committment "disease" would get passed along to him. lol
). Now, he seems to enjoy going out with other people our age who are going through the same stages... serious dating, engagement, first home buying etc.
The best thing that''s happened since moving here happened this past week! We''ve been having lots of the same circular discussion since October about when we''ll get married - he''s not sure yet when he''ll be ready although he wants to marry me, I''m ready to get married now and just want to know WHEN... frustrating for both of us to say the least, but we''ve at least been able to have quite a few good conversations and really listen to where the other is coming from. So, a couple days ago sitting out at dinner, we''re talking about upcoming weddings (my brother''s in July and his sister''s in November). He starts asking me questions about OUR wedding!!! Where do I want to get married? How many people do I want to have? etc, etc!!! I think we''ve pretty much decided where we want to get married and the type of wedding we want to have, and we''re in TOTAL agreement!!! SOOOOO EXCITING! It seems as though we''re finally on the same page, and I feel so much more comfortable waiting a little longer for a ring when he''s at least willing to talk to me about the future - especially when HE brings up the discussion himself!
Oh, and, there''s been LOTS of talk about OUR home. A few weeks ago, he took me out driving to explore some different neighborhoods to see which ones we like, where we''d like to live... and, while we drove, we talked about how many bedrooms we''d want, what we''d want in a home (especially since we both work from home), whether we needed to look into schools in case we had children while we still lived in the home, etc, etc.
So, no update on the ring front, but LOTS happening in other discussions about marriage, family and home - which I think is much more important than the ring anyway!! I''d rather us focus on the marriage and our future than on a piece of jewelry or a big party... I also bought a book of questions that we''re gonna go through - I looked through it, now he''s looking through it, then we''ll both look through it together... Oh, also, we''ve got a trip planned to Hawaii in November, so I think that would be the perfect place for a proposal!!!! (haha, he could ask me to get "mauied" (married) in Maui - how cute!) Of course, if he wants to do it before then, it would be TOTALLY fine with me!!! So, things are looking up in my world here! And, funny how the more he talks about the future, the less "crazy" I become obsessing about the proposal and our future. Hopefully one day soon I''ll be posting an "I''M ENGAGED!" story here!!!
Just a mini-update for you here. It''s been a long time since I posted about all the drama that happened. So, for those of you who weren''t around then, a quick backstory... bf and I met and dated for a year in college, broke up for 4 years and got back together in Oct 2002. Dated long distance until Dec. 2005 when I moved to Pittsburgh. In Oct last year, he was offered a transfer to NC with his job. I didn''t want to go without a firm committment (engagement or timeline for engagement). After MANY (personal and private) discussions, I ended up moving with him in Feb (with a ring or a timeline on when I would have one).
Things in NC are going GREAT!! In Pittsburgh, most of our friends were single, which resulted in many nights out at the bars bagging on engaged/married people (as single guys tend to do). Since moving here to Raleigh, I''ve made sure that we meet as many couples as possible, and we''ve met some great people, gone out to dinners, etc. Before, he wasn''t really comfortable going out with couples (as though their committment "disease" would get passed along to him. lol
The best thing that''s happened since moving here happened this past week! We''ve been having lots of the same circular discussion since October about when we''ll get married - he''s not sure yet when he''ll be ready although he wants to marry me, I''m ready to get married now and just want to know WHEN... frustrating for both of us to say the least, but we''ve at least been able to have quite a few good conversations and really listen to where the other is coming from. So, a couple days ago sitting out at dinner, we''re talking about upcoming weddings (my brother''s in July and his sister''s in November). He starts asking me questions about OUR wedding!!! Where do I want to get married? How many people do I want to have? etc, etc!!! I think we''ve pretty much decided where we want to get married and the type of wedding we want to have, and we''re in TOTAL agreement!!! SOOOOO EXCITING! It seems as though we''re finally on the same page, and I feel so much more comfortable waiting a little longer for a ring when he''s at least willing to talk to me about the future - especially when HE brings up the discussion himself!
Oh, and, there''s been LOTS of talk about OUR home. A few weeks ago, he took me out driving to explore some different neighborhoods to see which ones we like, where we''d like to live... and, while we drove, we talked about how many bedrooms we''d want, what we''d want in a home (especially since we both work from home), whether we needed to look into schools in case we had children while we still lived in the home, etc, etc.
So, no update on the ring front, but LOTS happening in other discussions about marriage, family and home - which I think is much more important than the ring anyway!! I''d rather us focus on the marriage and our future than on a piece of jewelry or a big party... I also bought a book of questions that we''re gonna go through - I looked through it, now he''s looking through it, then we''ll both look through it together... Oh, also, we''ve got a trip planned to Hawaii in November, so I think that would be the perfect place for a proposal!!!! (haha, he could ask me to get "mauied" (married) in Maui - how cute!) Of course, if he wants to do it before then, it would be TOTALLY fine with me!!! So, things are looking up in my world here! And, funny how the more he talks about the future, the less "crazy" I become obsessing about the proposal and our future. Hopefully one day soon I''ll be posting an "I''M ENGAGED!" story here!!!