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Shiny_Rock
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- Jul 23, 2007
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Wow... it seems like there are a lot of us lately! I just need to vent...
I have been with my BF for almost 4 years, and we have lived together for 2 and a half. He is 30 and I am 31. We started talking about marriage after we had been together for a year, but it didn''t start bothering me that things weren''t moving forward until we had been together for about 2 and a half years. As of now, there is an engagement ring. BF has had it for about 2 months. He has told me several time that I would have it by a certain time, and it has not happened. Last weekend, he had a meltdown and told me that he is not ready to propose and "doesn''t know why". We have been through a lot in 4 years, most recently the unexpected death of his mother back in March. I know he is struggling with that, and I feel so completely selfish that I am even concerned with an engagement right now. But I have been patient, for a long time, and I can''t just keep pushing my feelings to the back burner. He knows I am very frustrated. I truly love him more than anything. I just don''t know what to do. I have a feeling that he needs something drastic (such as me leaving) to realize what he wants, but I feel guilty doing that for many reasons, especially as he just recently lost his mom. Ughhh... I am at such a loss.
I have been with my BF for almost 4 years, and we have lived together for 2 and a half. He is 30 and I am 31. We started talking about marriage after we had been together for a year, but it didn''t start bothering me that things weren''t moving forward until we had been together for about 2 and a half years. As of now, there is an engagement ring. BF has had it for about 2 months. He has told me several time that I would have it by a certain time, and it has not happened. Last weekend, he had a meltdown and told me that he is not ready to propose and "doesn''t know why". We have been through a lot in 4 years, most recently the unexpected death of his mother back in March. I know he is struggling with that, and I feel so completely selfish that I am even concerned with an engagement right now. But I have been patient, for a long time, and I can''t just keep pushing my feelings to the back burner. He knows I am very frustrated. I truly love him more than anything. I just don''t know what to do. I have a feeling that he needs something drastic (such as me leaving) to realize what he wants, but I feel guilty doing that for many reasons, especially as he just recently lost his mom. Ughhh... I am at such a loss.