JenStone
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- Mar 13, 2006
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My boyfriend's brother is getting married in a couple of months and the whole thing is kinda bringing me down.
His brother and fiancee keep planning all these wedding-party get-togethers (my boyfriend is the best man) and they don't invite me. According to my bf, by inviting him, they're inviting me also but I don't feel 100% comfortable attending an event that I wasn't specifically invited to. They know my email and phone number, and we're on friendly terms. I almost feel like if they really wanted me there, they would add me to the invite list.
When they sent their wedding invitations a few months ago, it had my boyfriend's name on it but not mine (we live together). Maybe it was just an oversight on their part. But all of my boyfriend's other friends, when they sent their wedding invitations, always included my name on there also. Even when we had only met once, or not met at all.
Lastly, at their wedding, they will not be having a sweetheart table but a long table for the bridal party. Since I don't know anyone at the wedding aside from his family, I'll probably be seated at the table full of strangers or his family, who will most likely be speaking Chinese (I only know like 5 phrases) 90% of the time.
Has anyone else dealt with something similar? I realize I'm being overly sensitive, but whenever I think about it I feel so left out and almost unwanted.
*edited to add - I know wedding party get-togethers are just that: events for the wedding party. But they're doing so many, at least one every weekend! I feel bad for my boyfriend because he's had to choose between me and them so many times.
His brother and fiancee keep planning all these wedding-party get-togethers (my boyfriend is the best man) and they don't invite me. According to my bf, by inviting him, they're inviting me also but I don't feel 100% comfortable attending an event that I wasn't specifically invited to. They know my email and phone number, and we're on friendly terms. I almost feel like if they really wanted me there, they would add me to the invite list.
When they sent their wedding invitations a few months ago, it had my boyfriend's name on it but not mine (we live together). Maybe it was just an oversight on their part. But all of my boyfriend's other friends, when they sent their wedding invitations, always included my name on there also. Even when we had only met once, or not met at all.
Lastly, at their wedding, they will not be having a sweetheart table but a long table for the bridal party. Since I don't know anyone at the wedding aside from his family, I'll probably be seated at the table full of strangers or his family, who will most likely be speaking Chinese (I only know like 5 phrases) 90% of the time.
Has anyone else dealt with something similar? I realize I'm being overly sensitive, but whenever I think about it I feel so left out and almost unwanted.
*edited to add - I know wedding party get-togethers are just that: events for the wedding party. But they're doing so many, at least one every weekend! I feel bad for my boyfriend because he's had to choose between me and them so many times.