Semiramide
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Oct 8, 2007
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- 32
Hi! I''m kind of nervous to be leaving the safety of lurkerhood, but you are all so nice and supportive of each other that I know I shouldn''t be! My dilemma is twofold. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 years (we met as freshmen in college) and are finally at the point where we''re ready to get married. I am in a profession where actual jobs are rare and you have to go wherever the job is, which has taken me to some less than ideal places for the past three years, but my boyfriend has been really wonderful and followed me even though it meant leaving his own steady job. This ate into his savings, and now that he is going back to school he has no money for an engagement ring. I could pay for it, and have offered, but we both feel weird about me paying for the entire ring (I think he would be ok with me paying for some of it, which I will happily do because I have kind of expensive taste!).
So here is my first question: considering the circumstances, would it really be all that strange for me to pay for most of my engagement ring? Or should we wait, and choose an alternative symbol of our engagement for now? Just wondered about people''s opinions on this matter.
So here is the next part: My mom, who is so excited that we are finally talking marriage, gave my boyfriend a watch that belonged to my great-grandmother, intending for us to remove the diamonds and use them in the engagement ring. It is a beautiful watch, and it kills me to think about dismantling it! My mom is really insistent though, as the watch is very ornate and not really wearable on a daily, practical basis. My great-grandmother would have been a great Pricescoper, as she was something of an upgrader AND a recycler, resetting many of her gemstones when the settings went out of fashion, so I know she wouldn''t have minded. And I know it would mean a lot to my mom if we were to accept her lovely gesture.
And now for question 2. Would the watch be completely ruined if the diamonds were removed, or could I eventually replace them with similar stones in the future? Or do you have other ideas about how I could use something from it without really harming it? I am totally open to any ideas and don''t necessarily need to have a RING right now, but I can''t use it as an "engagement watch", as it really is impractical and looks awful on me!
Anyway, as a reward for making it through all that, I''m going to try to figure out how to upload a picture. Thank you for your help!
So here is my first question: considering the circumstances, would it really be all that strange for me to pay for most of my engagement ring? Or should we wait, and choose an alternative symbol of our engagement for now? Just wondered about people''s opinions on this matter.
So here is the next part: My mom, who is so excited that we are finally talking marriage, gave my boyfriend a watch that belonged to my great-grandmother, intending for us to remove the diamonds and use them in the engagement ring. It is a beautiful watch, and it kills me to think about dismantling it! My mom is really insistent though, as the watch is very ornate and not really wearable on a daily, practical basis. My great-grandmother would have been a great Pricescoper, as she was something of an upgrader AND a recycler, resetting many of her gemstones when the settings went out of fashion, so I know she wouldn''t have minded. And I know it would mean a lot to my mom if we were to accept her lovely gesture.
And now for question 2. Would the watch be completely ruined if the diamonds were removed, or could I eventually replace them with similar stones in the future? Or do you have other ideas about how I could use something from it without really harming it? I am totally open to any ideas and don''t necessarily need to have a RING right now, but I can''t use it as an "engagement watch", as it really is impractical and looks awful on me!
Anyway, as a reward for making it through all that, I''m going to try to figure out how to upload a picture. Thank you for your help!