Caramelfreak
Rough_Rock
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- Aug 28, 2015
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Sorry, first time poster and long first post! Just needed a place to vent. I feel a little down on my ring.
I love my e-ring but now I am just so tired and nauseated when I look at it. Just wanting a place to vent.
Story: Found a ring whilst on travels in Canada. It was the sapphire's colour that caught my eye and it was already set in a design I was specifically looking for at that time.
Returned home: Lost ring for a day from a broken chain. Found ring on a road near house in the middle of the night- was likely crushed by a car (cars like to park on that road). Sapphire undamaged. Lost a few side stones.
Insurance dramas- won't let me choose my repairer, wants to only payout a thousand to repair it or send it via post to a jeweller in another state that I have never met or heard of. I took the money and found a reputable jeweller- upgraded the ring to platinum from 18K white gold and handmade instead of cast.
Got ring back, looks more beautiful because it is better made but missing 4 diamonds which the jeweller was sure she replaced (she had to replace a few more damaged diamonds) but it actually probably look nicer with a shorter length of pave on the shank (it's a double halo sapphire ring)- the job was very reasonably priced for a handmade ring so i didn't care plus the total was a lot less than what she quoted, which was already the lowest quote at one of the most reputable jewellers I have been to. And a lot more metal as well- the original ring was cast made and quality was probably reasonable enough until it got crushed under a car (diamonds and sapphire are very nice though).
In the midst of this, before settling on the repairer and with the insurance drama, i went to a few other jewellers who scared me about my sapphire (we looked hard for a sapphire we like, most are too dark/ too light/ too dull/ not glowy enough etc.. Wanted unheated, can't find any we like or can examine, and I saw that one on the ring and I loved it instantly, knowing it's not unheated) said it could be fake, could be filled with glass, could be BE treated, could be all crap crap crap etc, can't guarantee won't damage in reset not bought from them- they have the best sapphires etc.. told me my ring is all shit. Went to a gemologist who assured me my sapphire is only heat treated which is common and for the price I paid for, expected.
There is imperfections with this handmade ring but I expect that with handmade and it isn't a bother. Then I just finished a run of night-shifts and was staring at my ring, OCD kicked in, examined ring for all flaws, ring kept shinning under the lighting and hurt my eyes- I was very tired, saw double visions of the ring, and vomited the whole night from a migraine that was probably triggered by tiredness and then scrutinizing my ring from every angle.
Now I am obssessed with if I should put more diamonds on the shank so it will have the original number of diamonds but probably won't look as clean as it does now, and regretted not millgraining it as my wedding ring is millgrained and I loved that, and when I see the ring now, I can feel the emotional stress of he whole process of replacing it that I wished we had just bought a simple diamond with a GIA cert (I don't like diamonds), and so no one could put doubts in my head about my sapphire. And then I wore the ring and it was so shiny from all the diamonds that my migraine got worse and I puked again.
I know it's a strange story, I shouldn't be complaining but other than my sapphire I think the heart of it is that maybe because it isn't the same ring anymore that I feel so weird about my ring? I still feel stress about the whole thing and then there is this debate to add more diamonds to the shank to lengthen the pave so it looks more like the original but part of me goes "what the hell, it looks nicer like that , won't be the same original ring anymore so stop looking for pink elephants". This thought in my head is really distracting and I thought I should probably show a picture of the ring and let the internet world decide if I should add more diamonds but the again, it's silly to not trust myself in this minute decision that really is such a stupid issue of people who are privilege enough (like myself, I am grateful everyday I am in the position to decide on silly things like that) to have such problems in the first place!
I now kept the ring in the box because I just feel a little sad thinking about the whole thing. I was so happy when it was back and then I became awashed with the stress of replacing it; the horrible things said by some other jewellers; maybe we paid too much or bought too much ring when I should have just gone for simple diamond one ( since I don't really love diamonds not much emotions will be involved); then the migraine that scrutinising it after night shifts triggered... I honestly can't look at it now.
I am very afraid I will never feel like it's my E-ring again coz the reality hits and I know it's not the original one which, despite it's poorer craftmanship from being a cast-made, because we saw it and loved it together, it was really perfect.
Just a vent, my friends will hit me on the head for having such a non-issue (to them the ring was stunning/ brilliant etc. etc.). Maybe I have just turned crazy from the whole thing (the replacement/ insurance back and forth took months!). I never saw myself as a materialistic person and to have such strong emotions about what is essentially a piece of metal and some shiny stones which probably damage the environment and goodness what other negative impact mining for them has on the world is a little off-putting as well.
I love my e-ring but now I am just so tired and nauseated when I look at it. Just wanting a place to vent.
Story: Found a ring whilst on travels in Canada. It was the sapphire's colour that caught my eye and it was already set in a design I was specifically looking for at that time.
Returned home: Lost ring for a day from a broken chain. Found ring on a road near house in the middle of the night- was likely crushed by a car (cars like to park on that road). Sapphire undamaged. Lost a few side stones.
Insurance dramas- won't let me choose my repairer, wants to only payout a thousand to repair it or send it via post to a jeweller in another state that I have never met or heard of. I took the money and found a reputable jeweller- upgraded the ring to platinum from 18K white gold and handmade instead of cast.
Got ring back, looks more beautiful because it is better made but missing 4 diamonds which the jeweller was sure she replaced (she had to replace a few more damaged diamonds) but it actually probably look nicer with a shorter length of pave on the shank (it's a double halo sapphire ring)- the job was very reasonably priced for a handmade ring so i didn't care plus the total was a lot less than what she quoted, which was already the lowest quote at one of the most reputable jewellers I have been to. And a lot more metal as well- the original ring was cast made and quality was probably reasonable enough until it got crushed under a car (diamonds and sapphire are very nice though).
In the midst of this, before settling on the repairer and with the insurance drama, i went to a few other jewellers who scared me about my sapphire (we looked hard for a sapphire we like, most are too dark/ too light/ too dull/ not glowy enough etc.. Wanted unheated, can't find any we like or can examine, and I saw that one on the ring and I loved it instantly, knowing it's not unheated) said it could be fake, could be filled with glass, could be BE treated, could be all crap crap crap etc, can't guarantee won't damage in reset not bought from them- they have the best sapphires etc.. told me my ring is all shit. Went to a gemologist who assured me my sapphire is only heat treated which is common and for the price I paid for, expected.
There is imperfections with this handmade ring but I expect that with handmade and it isn't a bother. Then I just finished a run of night-shifts and was staring at my ring, OCD kicked in, examined ring for all flaws, ring kept shinning under the lighting and hurt my eyes- I was very tired, saw double visions of the ring, and vomited the whole night from a migraine that was probably triggered by tiredness and then scrutinizing my ring from every angle.
Now I am obssessed with if I should put more diamonds on the shank so it will have the original number of diamonds but probably won't look as clean as it does now, and regretted not millgraining it as my wedding ring is millgrained and I loved that, and when I see the ring now, I can feel the emotional stress of he whole process of replacing it that I wished we had just bought a simple diamond with a GIA cert (I don't like diamonds), and so no one could put doubts in my head about my sapphire. And then I wore the ring and it was so shiny from all the diamonds that my migraine got worse and I puked again.
I know it's a strange story, I shouldn't be complaining but other than my sapphire I think the heart of it is that maybe because it isn't the same ring anymore that I feel so weird about my ring? I still feel stress about the whole thing and then there is this debate to add more diamonds to the shank to lengthen the pave so it looks more like the original but part of me goes "what the hell, it looks nicer like that , won't be the same original ring anymore so stop looking for pink elephants". This thought in my head is really distracting and I thought I should probably show a picture of the ring and let the internet world decide if I should add more diamonds but the again, it's silly to not trust myself in this minute decision that really is such a stupid issue of people who are privilege enough (like myself, I am grateful everyday I am in the position to decide on silly things like that) to have such problems in the first place!
I now kept the ring in the box because I just feel a little sad thinking about the whole thing. I was so happy when it was back and then I became awashed with the stress of replacing it; the horrible things said by some other jewellers; maybe we paid too much or bought too much ring when I should have just gone for simple diamond one ( since I don't really love diamonds not much emotions will be involved); then the migraine that scrutinising it after night shifts triggered... I honestly can't look at it now.
I am very afraid I will never feel like it's my E-ring again coz the reality hits and I know it's not the original one which, despite it's poorer craftmanship from being a cast-made, because we saw it and loved it together, it was really perfect.
Just a vent, my friends will hit me on the head for having such a non-issue (to them the ring was stunning/ brilliant etc. etc.). Maybe I have just turned crazy from the whole thing (the replacement/ insurance back and forth took months!). I never saw myself as a materialistic person and to have such strong emotions about what is essentially a piece of metal and some shiny stones which probably damage the environment and goodness what other negative impact mining for them has on the world is a little off-putting as well.
but they are real! You are allowed to have those feelings, so don't discount them!
I love the setting, and the color of your sapphire is really pretty! Again, please try to forget all the criticism, nobody looking at your hand is even going to notice any of those things - all they will see is a gorgeous ring. It is rare for a gemstone not to have any inclusions - in fact, inclusions are a way to know it's a genuine gemstone! These jewelers seem to have convinced you that your stone is a piece of junk or something, and it's not!
You need to say goodbye to the memories of the jewelers trying to get your business by saying negative things that were not even true and the whole reset experience, too! Those are in the past and now you have a beautiful ring! That ring could work equally well as a right hand ring, of course, so you could always wear it on the right hand if for a later anniversary you get a new ring to wear on the left hand. MANY of us here no longer wear our original rings. I still have mine, but I have only worn my anniversary diamond ring since I got it.
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