dockman3
Brilliant_Rock
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So here''s the story:
One of my best friends and I had been roommates for about 5 years, three in undergrad and two in grad school when he got engaged and his fiancee moved in with us. A year later, they got married and then my gf moved in with us when a different roommate moved out, so there were now 4 of us living in the house, my friend and his wife and me and my gf. Before my gf moved in with me, we had been doing extreme long distance (Seattle to Chicago) and I didn''t see her more than once every other month, so I spent a lot of time with my roommate and his fiancee while we were apart. Once my gf was there and they were married, everything was fine for a while, but then my gf and my friend''s wife started to not get along as well. My roommates were feeling abandoned because I was spending all of my time with my gf and had cut back significantly on the time I spent with them. Long story short, when they finally moved out of the house, his wife and my gf were not speaking and have not spoken to this day, over a year later. I was best man at their wedding and he will at least be a groomsman at mine.
So here''s my problem:
My gf will only let my good friend come to our wedding if he leaves his wife at home. She doesn''t want somebody at her wedding who has called her all sorts of bad names. While I can understand that, I''m still good friends with my roommate, but in all honesty, I haven''t spoken to his wife since they left either. I want him there and his wife was always nice to me and we never had any problems. The problem is between the girls and I don''t see a way out of this situation. My gf won''t give in and I don''t want to tell one of my groomsmen that he can come only if he leaves his wife at home. Does anybody see a solution to this?? Thanks in advance.
One of my best friends and I had been roommates for about 5 years, three in undergrad and two in grad school when he got engaged and his fiancee moved in with us. A year later, they got married and then my gf moved in with us when a different roommate moved out, so there were now 4 of us living in the house, my friend and his wife and me and my gf. Before my gf moved in with me, we had been doing extreme long distance (Seattle to Chicago) and I didn''t see her more than once every other month, so I spent a lot of time with my roommate and his fiancee while we were apart. Once my gf was there and they were married, everything was fine for a while, but then my gf and my friend''s wife started to not get along as well. My roommates were feeling abandoned because I was spending all of my time with my gf and had cut back significantly on the time I spent with them. Long story short, when they finally moved out of the house, his wife and my gf were not speaking and have not spoken to this day, over a year later. I was best man at their wedding and he will at least be a groomsman at mine.
So here''s my problem:
My gf will only let my good friend come to our wedding if he leaves his wife at home. She doesn''t want somebody at her wedding who has called her all sorts of bad names. While I can understand that, I''m still good friends with my roommate, but in all honesty, I haven''t spoken to his wife since they left either. I want him there and his wife was always nice to me and we never had any problems. The problem is between the girls and I don''t see a way out of this situation. My gf won''t give in and I don''t want to tell one of my groomsmen that he can come only if he leaves his wife at home. Does anybody see a solution to this?? Thanks in advance.