armywife13
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So about 8 months ago, my husband and I decided to upgrade my wedding set. He said he wanted me to have my dream ring because of all the sacrifices I have made to follow him in the Army. About a month ago I found my diamond and have signed the layaway agreement-I am head over heels about the diamond. So now I have been focusing on settings so that I have it decided when the diamond is paid off. Admittedly, I have been bugging my hubby to look at setting a lot because I want this to be a ring that we both love. Well, tonight I wanted to show him a few different settings to get his opinion. He FLIPPED out saying that he doesn't understand why anyone would be interested in rings and that it is stupid. He then proceeded to tell me that this will never have the sentiment that the ring he proposed to me with and that he doesnt care what I do as far as my upgrade. He thinks that the only reason I am doing this all just to get people's attention with a large ring.
This whole conversation really hurt my feelings and I am afraid that when I do get this amazing ring, that it will be tainted because of his feelings. Honestly, if I had known or had any inclination that this was how he felt, I never would have started the upgrade process. I thought we were on the same page with this all, we were purchasing it to celebrate the birth of our daughter last year, our anniversary this year, and as he said-the sacrifices I made following him in the army-by no means was it to gain peoples attention. I was a little thrown off about the sentiment comment also, because he proposed with one ring but we ended up purchasing a different wedding set for the wedding-which he didn't have an issue with.
I guess I am just a little saddened because we have found the perfect diamond and I am down to a few settings, I was so excited. But now I feel like there is a damper on the whole situation.
This whole conversation really hurt my feelings and I am afraid that when I do get this amazing ring, that it will be tainted because of his feelings. Honestly, if I had known or had any inclination that this was how he felt, I never would have started the upgrade process. I thought we were on the same page with this all, we were purchasing it to celebrate the birth of our daughter last year, our anniversary this year, and as he said-the sacrifices I made following him in the army-by no means was it to gain peoples attention. I was a little thrown off about the sentiment comment also, because he proposed with one ring but we ended up purchasing a different wedding set for the wedding-which he didn't have an issue with.
I guess I am just a little saddened because we have found the perfect diamond and I am down to a few settings, I was so excited. But now I feel like there is a damper on the whole situation.