february2003bride
Ideal_Rock
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Everyone''s read about the gift DH let me pick out (a small ACA diamond from WF set in a Tiffany style setting) and I''ve been wearing it. It''s my "everyday" e-ring paired up with a 2mm plain band. Anyway, today at lunch together I was telling DH about maybe upgrading to a .50-.60 next month. He got quiet and with me asking "What''s wrong? No, seriously, why are you so quiet?" he tells me that while he''s glad I''m happy with it and everything but he feels like that means the e-ring we picked out together is no longer good enough.
I feel horrible because that''s so NOT the case. I love my engagement ring. I would like to change the setting for various reasons but would never change the stone. He left it at that he''s glad I like it and if I want to upgrade the ACA, that''s fine, we''ll see about it next month. But I could tell it wasn''t fine.
So, would you keep the diamond and stay on plan and upgrade until you get to the carat size you''d like? Or put the diamond into something else? I would be fine having it set into a pendant. I couldn''t wear it right now, since my 6 month old is very "grabby" right now, but eventually I could wear it.
I could also see if WF would let me trade in the diamond on a setting. DH has said before that he is fine with me changing my e-ring setting as long as it wasn''t insanely expensive.
Eesh, I never ever meant to hurt his feelings. I do feel like he had more than ample time to speak up about it but he''s not that kind of guy. If I''m doing something and it''s not going to make us broke or hurt us or the kids, I can do whatever. But this time I did hurt him
So what would you do?
Thanks so much!
Carrie
I feel horrible because that''s so NOT the case. I love my engagement ring. I would like to change the setting for various reasons but would never change the stone. He left it at that he''s glad I like it and if I want to upgrade the ACA, that''s fine, we''ll see about it next month. But I could tell it wasn''t fine.
So, would you keep the diamond and stay on plan and upgrade until you get to the carat size you''d like? Or put the diamond into something else? I would be fine having it set into a pendant. I couldn''t wear it right now, since my 6 month old is very "grabby" right now, but eventually I could wear it.
I could also see if WF would let me trade in the diamond on a setting. DH has said before that he is fine with me changing my e-ring setting as long as it wasn''t insanely expensive.
Eesh, I never ever meant to hurt his feelings. I do feel like he had more than ample time to speak up about it but he''s not that kind of guy. If I''m doing something and it''s not going to make us broke or hurt us or the kids, I can do whatever. But this time I did hurt him
So what would you do?
Thanks so much!
Carrie