luckystar112
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Kind of feeding off another thread here....I''m kind of interested in knowing how you were disciplined as a child. Were you spanked? Do you think it''s okay to spank your kids? How much is TOO much?
In my case I was spanked, but only a handful of times. My mother used it as an absolute last resort, and because of that I can practically tell you the circumstances around every time it happened.
She would ask me to stop whatever bad thing I was doing.
If I wouldn''t stop, she''d repeat herself.
If I STILL didn''t stop, she''d warn me (very calmly) that if I kept it up I was going to get a spanking. Then she would make me repeat her words back to her to make sure I heard her.
Only then, if I kept it up, did I get a spanking...and only after she reminded me that she told me that was what was going to happen.
And when I got spanked I had to lean over my bed with my pants and underwear on...and she cupped her hand. It never hurt...I was more embarressed and mad at her than anything else.
I plan on using that same strategy with my kids.
I can only think of one time I ever got grounded. I was in the seventh grade and I got caught smoking a cigarette. I was grounded for one month. I missed halloween.
Mostly, my mother''s number one method of punishment, was making me sit in the living room with her where she would give me these "talks". OH MAN.....I do NOT miss those talks. Sometimes she would yell, depending on how mad she was. Sometimes she would cry, depending on how dissappointed she was. I HATED having those talks with her. I would have to be completely silent while she went off on me for an hour. It was more annoying than anything else. But hey, I guess it''s better she vented her frustration that way then pulling out a paddle.
Lastly, I didn''t earn my privacy until I was in high school. Anything in my room or backpack before that was open to investigation at any time. I absolutley hated it, but looking back I realize that it was a smart thing to do. A lot of the stuff she found ended up being the subject of one of our "talks" and I really think she prevented me from being a drug addicted teen mother. Not that I was into drugs...but if she didn''t care I could have been one day!
So, I appreciate how I was raised and plan on doing the same for my kids. I think I turned out okay! lol. Maybe I should tell her that...hmmmm.
In my case I was spanked, but only a handful of times. My mother used it as an absolute last resort, and because of that I can practically tell you the circumstances around every time it happened.
She would ask me to stop whatever bad thing I was doing.
If I wouldn''t stop, she''d repeat herself.
If I STILL didn''t stop, she''d warn me (very calmly) that if I kept it up I was going to get a spanking. Then she would make me repeat her words back to her to make sure I heard her.
Only then, if I kept it up, did I get a spanking...and only after she reminded me that she told me that was what was going to happen.
And when I got spanked I had to lean over my bed with my pants and underwear on...and she cupped her hand. It never hurt...I was more embarressed and mad at her than anything else.
I plan on using that same strategy with my kids.
I can only think of one time I ever got grounded. I was in the seventh grade and I got caught smoking a cigarette. I was grounded for one month. I missed halloween.
Mostly, my mother''s number one method of punishment, was making me sit in the living room with her where she would give me these "talks". OH MAN.....I do NOT miss those talks. Sometimes she would yell, depending on how mad she was. Sometimes she would cry, depending on how dissappointed she was. I HATED having those talks with her. I would have to be completely silent while she went off on me for an hour. It was more annoying than anything else. But hey, I guess it''s better she vented her frustration that way then pulling out a paddle.
Lastly, I didn''t earn my privacy until I was in high school. Anything in my room or backpack before that was open to investigation at any time. I absolutley hated it, but looking back I realize that it was a smart thing to do. A lot of the stuff she found ended up being the subject of one of our "talks" and I really think she prevented me from being a drug addicted teen mother. Not that I was into drugs...but if she didn''t care I could have been one day!
So, I appreciate how I was raised and plan on doing the same for my kids. I think I turned out okay! lol. Maybe I should tell her that...hmmmm.