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I am going to pull a DF here and just throw a question out. Do you think anyone from your past thinks that you are the one that got away?
Hahaha! "Yet that fool keeps calling me! " That made me laugh! I pity the foo! He is a fool! He should be concentrating on his wife! But then again, I'm sure you're a catch haven!Haven said:Yes! I was engaged at 21. We dated for five years before I ended it. That was a decade ago, and we are now both married to other people, yet that fool still calls me two to four times a year. I always ignore his calls, yet he persists.
I think it's sad, because while *I* believe I'm a super awesome person, I really am not the right person for him and never was. He attended our ten-year HS reunion just to see me, and the whole thing is just silly. He needs to respect his wife and stop thinking whatever fool ideas he thinks about me. At this point I know it has NOTHING to do with *me* and everything to do with some figment he's created in his mind.
Haven|1350520246|3287433 said:At this point I know it has NOTHING to do with *me* and everything to do with some figment he's created in his mind.
YayTacori|1350520175|3287430 said:If I say yes, does that make me stuck up ? Haha
how about you?Lady_Disdain|1350519970|3287425 said:I am going to pull a DF here and just throw a question out. Do you think anyone from your past thinks that you are the one that got away?
Haven|1350520246|3287433 said:Yes! I was engaged at 21. We dated for five years before I ended it. That was a decade ago, and we are now both married to other people, yet that fool still calls me two to four times a year. I always ignore his calls, yet he persists.
I think it's sad, because while *I* believe I'm a super awesome person, I really am not the right person for him and never was. He attended our ten-year HS reunion just to see me, and the whole thing is just silly. He needs to respect his wife and stop thinking whatever fool ideas he thinks about me. At this point I know it has NOTHING to do with *me* and everything to do with some figment he's created in his mind.
Skippy|1350524496|3287492 said:how about you?Lady_Disdain|1350519970|3287425 said:I am going to pull a DF here and just throw a question out. Do you think anyone from your past thinks that you are the one that got away?
Lady_Disdain|1350527363|3287523 said:Sorry, I didn't get away, I ran away!
yennyfire|1350557386|3287663 said:Yes, it's kind of sad actually. He was a sweet boy that I met when we were 14 and became good friends. Over the years, my grandfather told me that he was in love with me, but I didn't believe him. He came to visit me in college and after a couple of drinks, made a pass at me, which I very badly deflected. Our friendship limped on, but when I told him I was getting married, that was it. He told me he always thought we'd get married, etc.
He got married within a few months of me and divorced less than a year later. I always feel like he only got married to try to forget me and I feel guilty, especially since they had a child together. He's such a good guy, but a romantic relationship would never have worked. We're FB friends now, but I still think he wonders "what if"....
minousbijoux|1350534312|3287591 said:What a great question, LD! Much more inventive than DF's. I've had a number of exes try to stay in touch, but I doubt any of them really thought I was the one; just missed some elements of our relationship and was taking a trip down memory lane...
Lady_Disdain|1350519970|3287425 said:I am going to pull a DF here and just throw a question out. Do you think anyone from your past thinks that you are the one that got away?
Lady_Disdain|1350521494|3287451 said:Haven|1350520246|3287433 said:At this point I know it has NOTHING to do with *me* and everything to do with some figment he's created in his mind.
I think this is the most common situation, actually. Once we are away from the person, we forget all the annoying bits and just remember the good, which get better and better with each passing day.
In my case, my college boyfriend (who dumped me when he moved to a different city and then, when he moved back, told me there was no way we would get back together) called out of the blue, because he was having problems and wanted to talk. I, of course, told him to come over for dinner (yes, I am that big a fool). He proceeded to arrive an hour and a half late for dinner, criticize my music choice (I have always been a huge classical music fan so that shouldn't have surprised him), criticize my dessert (hastily put together because he didn't bring the one he said he would) and, then, tell me how he was lonely, all his friends were married and the woman he was seeing was asking him if he was serious (she had a child and wasn't up to casual dating). To top it off, he concludes that I was the love of his life, that he shouldn't have let me leave and he wanted to get back together.
I was never happier to say I was very happy with my current relationship.