LitigatorChick
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Thanks everyone. I really really hate this whole situation.
Cara''s post really made sense to me, in a way I had never thought about things before:
I have been coming at this all wrong. I need a serious paradigm shift to tackle this right. These people are messed up. I think the "script" is out. I just need to have my comments ready, and if things get bad, Miller and I will go shopping (nothing like retail therapy), or out for coffee or to the park.
Cara''s post really made sense to me, in a way I had never thought about things before:
Your script is a great way to work on mending fences with a reasonable, old friend with whom you have had a falling out. It is not a good way to begin with unreasonable, abusive people who will take advantage of any weakness or fault you admit to. And whom fundamentally think they are in the right - they are not going to hear anything in your script telling them to change their behavior.
These people have no friends - they have had huge battles with anyone they previously considered a friend. They have had massive falling-outs with 1/2 of their family. They are despised in the town that they have lived in for 30 years - they plan on moving next year, since they have no friends there.
I guess I live my life assuming everyone is like me and my family. I don''t have friends I don''t talk to, I don''t isolate my family. Generally, things work out for me with most people, and where I have disagreements, we can work them out reasonably.
I have been coming at this all wrong. I need a serious paradigm shift to tackle this right. These people are messed up. I think the "script" is out. I just need to have my comments ready, and if things get bad, Miller and I will go shopping (nothing like retail therapy), or out for coffee or to the park.