princessplease
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OK, so I''m not PG or planning to be anytime soon. However, talk of babies and timelines have come up between FI and I as our wedding is in 6 months.
FMIL loves babies. She wants like 100 grandkids, lol, and the sooner the better. She even said at the holiday family gathering "When am I going to have more grandbabies?" FI is the youngest of them all (25, 26 in April), and he has two older sisters, one of whom may be PG. She is super excited about grandkids and can''t wait to have more.
However, my mom is WAYYYYYYYYY opposite of this, and it seems so odd to me. Yesterday, we went out dress shopping for BM''s, and I was telling mom how much FMIL wants more grandkids. I said to MOH "Yeah, my mom will never be like that" and mom said "You''re completely right; I will never say to you ''I want you to have kids'' for a very long time" (10 years she said, which will make me 36 or 37). I was floored. I''ll be 25 when FI and I marry, will have an advanced degree, good pay, good job with great benefits in case of an oops before TTC. FI and I have no solid plans to TTC until late 2011 early 2012 (which will make me 26 or 27). I''m the oldest of my mom''s two kids, and will have a pretty good, solid life built with then DH when we TTC. I''m just shocked my mom said this. She was 24 when I was born and 28 when my brother was born, so I know it''s not the age thing (mom has a very good career and education, too). I just feel like that when the time comes, I will be unsupported by my mother during the pregnancy.
I guess I really don''t know what I''m asking here, lol, but I really thought that mothers got excited when their perfectly capable daughter and her husband are interested in having a child (as FMIL is). Am I completely off base here? I was hoping she''d be super excited to hear about when we plan on TTC, but was floored by her response. Thoughts? TIA!
FMIL loves babies. She wants like 100 grandkids, lol, and the sooner the better. She even said at the holiday family gathering "When am I going to have more grandbabies?" FI is the youngest of them all (25, 26 in April), and he has two older sisters, one of whom may be PG. She is super excited about grandkids and can''t wait to have more.
However, my mom is WAYYYYYYYYY opposite of this, and it seems so odd to me. Yesterday, we went out dress shopping for BM''s, and I was telling mom how much FMIL wants more grandkids. I said to MOH "Yeah, my mom will never be like that" and mom said "You''re completely right; I will never say to you ''I want you to have kids'' for a very long time" (10 years she said, which will make me 36 or 37). I was floored. I''ll be 25 when FI and I marry, will have an advanced degree, good pay, good job with great benefits in case of an oops before TTC. FI and I have no solid plans to TTC until late 2011 early 2012 (which will make me 26 or 27). I''m the oldest of my mom''s two kids, and will have a pretty good, solid life built with then DH when we TTC. I''m just shocked my mom said this. She was 24 when I was born and 28 when my brother was born, so I know it''s not the age thing (mom has a very good career and education, too). I just feel like that when the time comes, I will be unsupported by my mother during the pregnancy.
I guess I really don''t know what I''m asking here, lol, but I really thought that mothers got excited when their perfectly capable daughter and her husband are interested in having a child (as FMIL is). Am I completely off base here? I was hoping she''d be super excited to hear about when we plan on TTC, but was floored by her response. Thoughts? TIA!