Written by somethingshiny » October 5th, 2011, 9:42 am:As to your question, "Can a teenaged daughter relate to her 70 yr old father?" The answer is completely and irrefutably, YES! A teenage daughter can relate to the man who has given so much of himself to provide her with a caring and loving home. A teenage daughter can relate to the man who has made sure her family wasn't split up. A teenage daughter can relate to the man whom she has called "Dad" for all those years. YOU are the hero in these children's lives. YOU are the one they will all WANT to relate to because you embody goodness and strength.
Written by hay joe » October 8th, 2011, 12:53 am:VLMost of every child's problems can be solved by just three things, Mom, love and home. Your children can have all of those things.Please chime in again.And VL, I'm sorry you were put through so much.Joe
Written by hay joe » October 10th, 2011, 9:13 pm:VLThe system has a lot of room for improvements to put it nicely and everyone has their own reasons for becoming a foster parent. We have met some people that are really good at it and we have kept away from others.It's hard to know which is the best way to go about helping an abused child. Sometimes you have to wait and let them tell you if what your doing is helping. A day or two ago after doing dinner dishes I sat down to watch some tv. As I sat there, out of the corner of my eye I could see the 5yo watching me from the other side of the room. He slowly came over to the side of the chair paused for a minute then climbed over the side and into my lap. He rested his head on my shoulder for a minute then put his face in front of mine and said "Joe, your my best friend" then he laid his head back down. What he probably meant was thanks for not torturing me. Who knows? As bad as it sounds we're kind of just winging it. I'm a truck mechanic, what do I know about helping a little boy that has been tortured? Very very little. We try, some days are good and some days are not so good. I'm learning, slowly, but I'm learning.Thanks for sharing so much with us.Joe
Written by hay:Too PatientYes we can use the grapevine to check up on the girls but we have to be respectful. I'm sure their mother would like to put that part of her life behind her. We may ask their mother if we could visit the girls before Chirstmas. We are at the hundred day hump and the oldest two are really having a rough time. That's a long time to be away from their family. Their caseworker called and wants to visit with us next week. We may get some information on how well mom is. She really needs help.
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