Hi,
I''ve been having a hard time these past few days but am trying to find a way to move forward. My ex-fi and I decided to split up. Well, he decided that he doesn''t want to get married and doesn''t feel anything would change that so splitting up is the right thing to do. If that''s how he feels, I guess he''s right. But it hurts incredibly. We are still living together and will until able to break the lease (if that''s allowed) or the lease ends in May. If allowed to break the lease, I guess we''ll have to find someone to take it over or sublet but not sure quite yet.
I just don''t know how to move forward from all this. We were supposed to spend our lives together and now we''re separating completely. I have told myself that I must get out of denial, this is happening, I have to deal w/it somehow. I just don''t know how. It hurts so bad.
Deep down, I know that he''s not right for me if he feels this way, if he''s not willing to commit to fixing things, if he''s so willing to give up so quickly and easily but that isn''t making it easier. I just see my whole lifetime of plans and now they''re changed. I believed him when he said he wanted us forever, when he proposed, when he said he was sure, when he said all those things he said and we made plans and began a life together. Now, somehow I have to let it go.. whether I want it to or not.
For myself though, I have to not move backwards. I don''t know how to act w/us still living together. Just until we had this discussion, things felt good, we always enjoy spending time together, being together and now that just stops. So what happens on the weekends? What happens when there is something that we would''ve done together.. I guess just go alone or not go. B/c although he could continue and just be friends, it hurts much too much for me. But it also hurts being there together but at the same time, being apart.
Any advice on how to move forward, I would appreciate it.
Thanks.
I''ve been having a hard time these past few days but am trying to find a way to move forward. My ex-fi and I decided to split up. Well, he decided that he doesn''t want to get married and doesn''t feel anything would change that so splitting up is the right thing to do. If that''s how he feels, I guess he''s right. But it hurts incredibly. We are still living together and will until able to break the lease (if that''s allowed) or the lease ends in May. If allowed to break the lease, I guess we''ll have to find someone to take it over or sublet but not sure quite yet.
I just don''t know how to move forward from all this. We were supposed to spend our lives together and now we''re separating completely. I have told myself that I must get out of denial, this is happening, I have to deal w/it somehow. I just don''t know how. It hurts so bad.
Deep down, I know that he''s not right for me if he feels this way, if he''s not willing to commit to fixing things, if he''s so willing to give up so quickly and easily but that isn''t making it easier. I just see my whole lifetime of plans and now they''re changed. I believed him when he said he wanted us forever, when he proposed, when he said he was sure, when he said all those things he said and we made plans and began a life together. Now, somehow I have to let it go.. whether I want it to or not.
For myself though, I have to not move backwards. I don''t know how to act w/us still living together. Just until we had this discussion, things felt good, we always enjoy spending time together, being together and now that just stops. So what happens on the weekends? What happens when there is something that we would''ve done together.. I guess just go alone or not go. B/c although he could continue and just be friends, it hurts much too much for me. But it also hurts being there together but at the same time, being apart.
Any advice on how to move forward, I would appreciate it.
Thanks.