For Those Who Are Thinking About Adoption!

[AGBF]

This thread is for people who are thinking about adoption: international or domestic, traditional or open.

In my case, I think about it because I did it (mine was an international adoption) over 15 years ago and now I get excited whenever I hear that someone about whom I care is also about to embark on the adventure!

I especially want to know what Logan Sapphire is up to since she is going to adopt...so I hope she graces this thread with her presence!

I hope that besides people who want to adopt that people who are not committed to adoption, but who are considering it, will feel free to meet here and talk .


Deborah

 

[Kaleigh]

Thanks for starting this thread Deb!! I know it will help many. My nephew was adopted, he''s been such a blessing to our family.

 

[Selkie]

Great idea, Deb! Am I weird for being more interested in the idea of adopting than in having my own biological child? I haven''t given either option really serious consideration yet but I''m definitely interested in learning more from those who have/are adopted or have done their research.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 3/13/2008 10:40:59 PM
Author: Selkie
Great idea, Deb! Am I weird for being more interested in the idea of adopting than in having my own biological child? I haven''t given either option really serious consideration yet but I''m definitely interested in learning more from those who have/are adopted or have done their research.

No I don''t think it is weird at all! I would say I am equally interested and hope to do both!

 

[Logan Sapphire]

I''ll write when I get home from work today, since I can''t access PS at work.

 

[D2B]

count me in as officially interested. If we are moving to the states, which it look like we will, I am really keen to find out where and how I find out more info and any webites would be appreciated.

We have one DS, but for medical reasons wont be albe to try again. I really want to complete my family and would love to hear storie from people going through or who have gone through the adoption process as well.

cheers
D2B

 

[Logan Sapphire]

Date: 3/13/2008 9:33:38 PM
Author:AGBF



This thread is for people who are thinking about adoption: international or domestic, traditional or open.


In my case, I think about it because I did it (mine was an international adoption) over 15 years ago and now I get excited whenever I hear that someone about whom I care is also about to embark on the adventure!


I especially want to know what Logan Sapphire is up to since she is going to adopt...so I hope she graces this thread with her presence!


I hope that besides people who want to adopt that people who are not committed to adoption, but who are considering it, will feel free to meet here and talk .



Deborah

I''m running to the gym but wondered if you had any questions you wanted me to address...

 

[D2B]

Logan saphire and any others with experience in this area:
some questions I have are:

- any useful webforums, sites regarding the adoption process
-what are the different types of adoptios available in the US, timelines, costs?
-if you dont mind sharing, how long was your process until the adoption occured, what was your process like
-any advise having gone through it for prospective adopters?

thanks, I am really looking to find out more about it and read as much as I can to see if it is a viable option for us.
Your time and help is much appreciated
thanks
D2B

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I am a huge proponent of international adoption! We had a son and a daughter and when they were 13 and 10, we went to China and adopted a baby girl! We went on a roller coaster ride before that, though, because we chose a country that did not have as reliable of an adoption policy. We were referred a child there and were never able to complete the adoption. But by the time that fell through, the policies had changed in China to allow people with children to adopt. It all worked out for the best, because we got the child we were meant to have. I highly recommend China because it has been one of the most stable programs. I think the biggest pain is the paperwork and then the waiting. But it is SO worth it! I am really blessed to have children by birth and adoption, and I can tell you that one is NOT better than the other! They are equal miracles!

 

[Logan Sapphire]

Well, we are adopting from Korea! And we''re using the same agency I was adopted from so the continuity is kinda neat.

As you might know from the TTC and infertility threads, both my husband and I have fertility issues that supposedly could only be rectified through IVF. For a variety of reasons, we decided to not pursue IVF and instead focus on adoption. I always knew I wanted to adopt, whether I had bio kids or not, and luckily for me, my husband felt the same. I also have NEVER wanted to be pregnant.

We chose Dillon International, based in Tulsa, mostly b/c I was adopted from Korea through Dillon, and because they have a Korean Heritage Program that gives gender preference and a faster timeline for Korean adoptees or people whose parents were born in Korea. Because we''re not in Dillon''s service areas (we''re in DC), we have to use a local agency for the home study and post-placement.

We could have a child by the end of this year, but I really have no idea! Right now we''re in the process of doing the 2nd part of the application, which is pretty extensive with financial statements, autobiographies, copies of marriage licenses, employer verifications, physicals, references, etc. Then we have to do the homestudy and after that we''ll be put on a waiting list for a referral.

Korea allows you to either have your child escorted to the US or you can go there. We''ll go there, which will be fun!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I am interested in adoption. I have been for years and years (pretty much since I discovered adoption as a child). For me, I see it as such a gift of love and such a blessing, both for the family and the child. I have a few friends who have adopted (or are in the process of adopting) and my sister-in-law was adopted, so that kind of keeps it at the forefront of my mind.

Unfortunately, Paul is not as thrilled with the idea as I am and since meeting and marrying him, my intense desire has somewhat dwindled. I still think that he has the heart for adoption, but needs to experience being a daddy before he will be completely open to the idea.

A good friend of mine adopted her son from Guatemala two years ago and is planning on adopting another child from the same area this year. She says the paperwork is less intense the second time around.

She has also told me about a lot of financial assistance with the process of international adoption, which can be quite high. She will be an huge help if the time ever comes in our lives to seek adoption.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 3/16/2008 8:56:25 PM
Author: Logan Sapphire

Dillon International...have a Korean Heritage Program that gives gender preference and a faster timeline for Korean adoptees or people whose parents were born in Korea.

That reminded me that I was unable to adopt from Korea; it was "closed" at the time I was adopting. My daughter had one play date with a little girl whose mother I knew from LAPA (the Latin American Parents Association). I believe she was born in Guatemala, although sometimes my memory plays tricks on me. It may have been Paraguay or Uruguay. At any rate, she was slightly older than my daughter and during the course of our friendship her parents started the process of adopting their second child from Korea which had "opened up" again as a "source". (The words in quotation marks are adoption lingo.)

Deborah