My son is engaged to get married next May. I know that my future daughter-in-law''s family is paying for the place and the food. The problem: my second son has a girlfriend who is extremely shy and hardly ever initiates conversation with my husband, our daughters or my engaged son. She is a sweet girl and just extremely shy--in my opinion. I do agree that she is maybe too shy. My engaged son is possibly thinking of not including her on the invite list and I think that will stir up trouble with my second son whom she is and has been dating for the last 2 years. My hubby is leaning towards excluding her as well. What do I do? Do I talk to my younger son and have him clue in his girlfriend to become more social or do I risk having my younger son not even want to attend his brother''s wedding? I know this issue will cause a rift and I want desperately to avoid it...HELP!