Post by lovelylulu » December 1st, 2005, 4:28 pm
i''ve read a bunch of threads with some really helpful ways to cut corners and save some $$ on this wedding, but you ladies have to help me out -- i just want some opinions.

My father, who has been amazing my whole life, has offered to pay for basically our entire wedding.  (my FMIL on the other hand didn''t want to go to a family engagement celebration dinner for fear she''d be stuck with the bill and she has much money -- but we won''t go into that now...)  he said some truly kind things and generously offered to fund the reception.  the only problem is that he hasn''t set any kind of budget.  he just said go ahead and plan the wedding and even though he''s paying he''ll stay out of it.  but this is leaving me in quite a predicement because i really don''t know my limits.  ahhhhh.  it also makes me feel so badly that he''s going to pay sooooooo much money!!  
 
i just found a place that i''m absolutely in love with but it costs around $155/person and with 150 people that''s a little over $23k without cake, flowers, photographer, band and all the other things i''m leaving out

the good thing is that i know there are ways to cut other costs -- like i found a dress for a couple of hundred dollars.  i''m thinking strawberries and whipped cream instead of a pricey cake.  lots of candles and tulips/lilies (which i don''t think are that pricey) making things myself

but do you think that $155 is really pricey???  it''s in NYC?

also, i think that my fiancee and i are likely going to be able to throw in about $8k or so

and maybe FMIL will throw in for something like the band or photographer -- something anything. 

i just never thought i''d be the person to blow so much $$$ on one day, but now that i''m living it it''s all changed