Do You Take This Credit Card...

What a great yet greedy idea! "We''ll make it as easy as possible for you to leave us a present."

LOL.

I''ve seen people "dress up", ribbion and bows, an ATM machine and put it next to their gift table... TACKY.

Date: 7/11/2008 8:13:53 PM
Author: ~*Snow*~

I''ve seen people ''dress up'', ribbion and bows, an ATM machine and put it next to their gift table... TACKY.

I agree!  That''s like slapping then in the face with, Oh, we invited you but you have to give us a gift...even if you forgot!  I mean...what happened to sending a late card in the mail!  I''d be insulted enough NOT to give a gift!!!!

Mother of all tackiness !
Until I saw that it's an Israeli wedding...Hmm. In my background newly weds are perfectly correct in ASSUMING gifts, and also there is no such thing as gifts other than cash. Guests stuff it in flamboyant red envelopes and show off how much money you are giving. I'm not Israeli, but maybe it's similar? In that case, I'm tempted to say that it's actually convenient this way. You're giving cash anyway, so just show up and swipe your card.
However, I say it will take away the festive feeling of thrusting cash to the newly weds. There is an air of celebration to it when guests hand those envelope and the couple hurt their backs bowing. Weird, but true.

I don''t think it is tacky at all for Israel.  I have been to Jewish weddings and you always give gifts and it is always money.  In my mind, it is no different than a registy, where you try to make gift giving as easy for your guests in the best way the culture allows.  I have been to Chinese weddings and I would have loved that since its easier than pulling lots of cash.

In Cyprus, giving a gift is the height of tacky because it is the giover saying they don''t trust the couple with money, its just a different standard.

I don''t know much about Israeli matrimony culture, if guests give money anyway and the bride and groom see no problem with it I don''t think it''s tacky.  Guests might feel better about carrying their credit card around than a few hundred dollars in cash.  I''m sure there is someone out there that would find something about everyone''s wedding "tacky" but it''s not their wedding.  My family is Vietnamese and everyone always gives cold hard cash, mostly because it''s very fluid and no one registers for anything in Vietnam as far as I know.  Cash is my preferred wedding gift - no returns, confusion, or leftover gifts - and most of my friends agree.   

Date: 7/12/2008 1:23:33 AM
Author: IndyGirl22
I don''t know much about Israeli matrimony culture, if guests give money anyway and the bride and groom see no problem with it I don''t think it''s tacky. Guests might feel better about carrying their credit card around than a few hundred dollars in cash. I''m sure there is someone out there that would find something about everyone''s wedding ''tacky'' but it''s not their wedding. My family is Vietnamese and everyone always gives cold hard cash, mostly because it''s very fluid and no one registers for anything in Vietnam as far as I know. Cash is my preferred wedding gift - no returns, confusion, or leftover gifts - and most of my friends agree.

I didn''t mean I thought the one mircles posted was tacky...that way people have the option and can put in on their and you get it at the end of the night.  I meant having an ATM machine and trying to decorate it.  Then they have to get their money out...then put it in the box...etc.  The one in the Israeli matrimony I thought was kinda cool...it''s not an ATM machine though. 

Date: 7/12/2008 10:09:13 AM
Author: redrose229

Date: 7/12/2008 1:23:33 AM
Author: IndyGirl22
I don''t know much about Israeli matrimony culture, if guests give money anyway and the bride and groom see no problem with it I don''t think it''s tacky. Guests might feel better about carrying their credit card around than a few hundred dollars in cash. I''m sure there is someone out there that would find something about everyone''s wedding ''tacky'' but it''s not their wedding. My family is Vietnamese and everyone always gives cold hard cash, mostly because it''s very fluid and no one registers for anything in Vietnam as far as I know. Cash is my preferred wedding gift - no returns, confusion, or leftover gifts - and most of my friends agree.

I didn''t mean I thought the one mircles posted was tacky...that way people have the option and can put in on their and you get it at the end of the night. I meant having an ATM machine and trying to decorate it. Then they have to get their money out...then put it in the box...etc. The one in the Israeli matrimony I thought was kinda cool...it''s not an ATM machine though.

No worries - I wasn''t talking about anyone in particular in my post, that''s why I didn''t quote anyone.    I can understand how some people might see ANYTHING at someone''s wedding as tacky, but I''d prefer to just say "It''s not my style" because tacky has such a horrible connotation.

I think that regardless of religion or culture, most couples will receive wedding gifts/checks.  I've read about this ATM idea, which was done at an American wedding.  I think this thread is coming very close to cultural/religious stereotyping and we need to be careful.